Personality Dynamics





 


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Common Look-Alikes

Distinguishing Between Types that Behave Similarly: 

 Type 1: The Reformer & Type 3: The Performer  

Similarities:
Both are driven achievers focused on goals and success and the avoidance of failure. Both are highly efficient and effective and attempt to leave their feelings at the door when they are focused on an important task at home or at work.

Differences:
Reformers (1) are driven by their strong inner critic and motivated to achieve what they judge is “right” by their own high standards. They work to get tasks done without error. Ones want to control themselves and their environment in order to avoid chaos, inefficiency or guilt.

Performers (3) are driven by the lure of the approval for their accomplishments and are willing to “morph” or cut corners if necessary to get the task done and receive recognition. Their overdoing is motivated by the image of being a high achiever and being “the best” in others' eyes.

If you are wondering if you are a One or a Three, contrast these differences: When you are suppressing your anger are you surprised that others know what you are feeling even when you don’t tell them (1)? Or can you be  charming and demonstrate appropriate emotions, even if you don't feel them, so well  that no one would ever guess what you are really feeling (3)? Are you driven by continuous improvement in order to feel internally good about yourself (1) or are you working hard to appear exceptional to get approval from others (3)?


 Type 1: The Reformer and Type 5: The Observer

Similarities:
Both Ones and Fives can be intellectual and appear to be somewhat aloof or drawn into themselves when they are thinking. Both care about doing things well.

Differences:
Reformers (1)
are concerned with doing well according to a set of rules that they have adopted. They focus on being correct. Ones are very certain about what they believe to be right and can be rather crusading about it. Improvement of self and others is a strong motivator. With their certainty comes judgment and criticality, both of self and others. Their interest in gaining knowledge is more for the practical application of it rather than knowledge for knowledge’s sake. Ones often get themselves very busy in their attempt to be the best that they can be. Ones repress desires in favor of doing what’s right.

Observers (5)are concerned more with competency and knowledge than with what is “right” according to the rules. Knowledge for knowledge’s sake is a worthwhile endeavor for Fives. They are protective of their time, energy and privacy and are sensitive to intrusion. They are objective thinkers for the most part and tend to let others “be” rather than trying to reform anyone. Fives repress needs and desires in order to be self-sufficient thereby conserving resources such as time, energy and money.

If you are wondering if you are a One or a Five contrast these two important differences: Throughout your life have you made decisions by judging situations and circumstances according to your strong internal idealistic standards of how things should be (1) or do you had a strong tendency to question standards, facts and assumptions to find out what is true (5)? Have you been more interested in improving the world (1) or discovering more about the world just because it is interesting to you (5)?


 Type 1: The Reformer and Type 6: The Questioner

 Similarities:
Both can be anxious, worrisome and delay pleasure until their work is done. People who break the rules can trigger them both. They both think in terms of what they and others “should” do, although for different reasons. Duty and responsibility are highly important to both types. In trying to understand and find answers, each can question authority in a way that seems confronting or even contrary.

Differences:
Reformers (1) 
are decisive, using their keen sense of judgment and high standards to make decisions and act with certainty. They think, “should”, because of their high moral ideals and their constant drive to improve, which they tend to project onto others. Ones question authority in order to analyze the problem so they can see that things are done “correctly” with the utmost integrity.

Questioners (6) are not decisive and question authority because they are anxious, skeptical and trying to gain certainty within themselves and in their environment. They think, “should”, because they feel safer when others follow the rules. They question authority because they don’t trust it and that attitude can show up as rebelliousness and even defiance.

If you are wondering if you are a One or a Six, contrast these important differences: Throughout your life have you been focused on correcting error and getting it right according to your internal high standards (1) or has your focus been on trying to figure out the rules and regulations in order to keep yourself and others safe (6)? Do you tend to feel guilty if you don’t uphold one of your high ideals (1) or if you are not appropriately loyal to your friend, organization or the authority you do respect (6)?

   
 Type 1: The Reformer & Type 8: The Protector

Similarities:
Both have strong opinions and are concerned with what is right, true and fair. When both Types are advocating for doing it “their way” they both can seem pushy, bossy and inflexible. Others can feel afraid of triggering either of these Types because they both can be fierce when they express their anger.

Differences:
The Reformer’s (1) sense of justice is a moral issue involving high standards and fair systems for all people. They have a tendency to try to convince others to do the “right” thing and can become irritated if others don’t live up to their sense of ethical integrity. Ones habitually suppress their anger until their righteousness or unfairness overflows and then they express their viewpoint. One’s anger is sharp and to the point and tends to be over quickly.

The Protector’s (8) sense of justice is an instinctive reaction, very often triggered by seeing someone who is vulnerable or innocent being taken advantage of by someone more powerful. They can get particularly intense when shielding “their people” from harm. Eights are not as cerebral about justice or fairness as Ones and are much more likely to express their anger directly, speak their truth openly, and tend to fire before aiming with their words. Eight’s anger is more like a big pot that suddenly boils over and explodes all over everything in the room.

If you are wondering if you are a One or an Eight, contrast these two essentially different ways of dealing with anger: Throughout your life have you attempted to suppress your anger in order to be a ‘good person” (1) or have you more often expressed your anger without realizing it was too much or inappropriate until later (8)? Is justice for you about the moral right way (1) or your way or the highway (8)?   


 Type 2: The Helper & Type 4: The Romantic

Similarities:
Both are image Types who focus on feelings and on relationships with emotional intensity.

Differences:
Helpers (2) are outwardly focused on others and will change their image in order to connect and meet others’ needs. They move towards others with little focus on themselves. They naturally scan for people who they can rescue. Even though they can sometimes get depressed, particularly when a relationship is difficult or ending, they tend to avoid being alone and will quickly distract themselves by focusing on others' needs.

Romantics (4) are more inner-directed and focused on their own needs, deficiencies and being special and unique. They are not as prone to change their image as the Helper and are unable to hide their feelings when they are depressed or in longing. Fours find satisfaction in being by themselves in the bittersweet feeling of melancholy and prefer to deepen into their feelings rather than avoid them.

If you are wondering if you are a Four or a Two contrast how you have been throughout your life regarding your focus of attention on others (2) or more inwardly on yourself (4). Has your time been spent more with others (2) or more by yourself (4)?  


 Type 2: The Helper & Type 6: The Questioner

Similarities:
Both can be warm and engaging and focused on others’ needs and demonstrate a strong desire to be accepted as part of the group. Both can ingratiate themselves with people.

Differences:
The Helper (2) actively moves forward toward meeting others’ needs. They are self-identified with being valued for giving to others. They seek to have others be dependent upon them, even to the point of being seen as indispensable. Being part of a group means being accepted and loved.  

For Questioners (6), pleasing others is motivated by insuring that others won’t hurt them if they like them and is an attempt to reduce doubt and gain security. Sixes get nervous if people begin to get too close, as they fear becoming dependent on others. Being part of the group may be safe or at least offer the possibility of knowing what is really going on which keeps doubt and fear at bay.  

If you are wondering if you are a Two or Six, contrast these important differences: When you are in an unfamiliar place with a group of people, are you scanning for possible threats (6) or for people to meet (2)? Are you wary about letting people into your life (6) or do you invite in too many people in order to feel needed and connected (2)?  
  

 Type 2: The Helper and Type 9: The Peacemaker  

Similarities:
These  Types both want to please people and so they pay more attention to other people’s needs and wants than to their own. They are both interpersonal and like to keep life positive and upbeat.  

Differences:
Helpers (2) are active in their attention on others. They shift and adapt themselves in order to meet what the Two perceives the other needs. They are highly attuned to other people’s emotional needs and want to be seen as valued dispensers of advice, guidance and emotional support. If they cannot give and help they feel de-valued.  

Peacemakers (9) react to others' needs, allowing themselves to be pulled off task by other people’s agendas. They blend in and disperse energy to make things comfortable without changing their image. The goal is to maintain harmony. Even though Nines will gladly help other people, they are generally less willing to go out of their way for others and they do not aspire to feel indispensable.  

If you are wondering if you are a Two or a Nine, contrast these important differences: Throughout your life have you gone toward people to create relationships by helping them and therefore getting their approval and attention (2) or have you found yourself in situations where your easygoing demeanor seemed to attract others to you without you having to initiate much energy on your part (9)? Do you notice how much you are giving in a relationship (at work or at home) and secretly feel irritated when equal attention is not coming your way (2) or are you undemanding and patient in a relationship and satisfied with fewer responses than many other people (9)?

 Type 3: The Performer and Type 7: The Enthusiast

Similarities:
Both Types are positive, assertive and focused on tasks. Both tend to avoid negative feelings. Activity abounds for both Types and they often overbook themselves.  

Differences:
Enthusiasts (7) are driven by the desire for experience and, in trying to take it all in, they get very busy. Having choice and options is extremely important. Sevens plan for pleasurable possibilities. They focus on positive experience, avoid negative feelings that interfere with that and are typically not motivated by what others think of them.

Performers (3) are hyper-focused on success in order to maintain their image and boost self-worth through approval from others. Their focus on status and wealth is an outward show, overcompensating for their inner fear of failure. They are busy accomplishing whatever needs to be done in order for them to appear successful. They are able to shift and adapt themselves to whatever the situation demands from them in order to do well.  

If you are wondering if you are a 3 or a 7, contrast these important differences: Throughout your life, have you been focused on having the best time possible while keeping your options open (7) or have you been focused on doing the best job, task or project in order to get the most accolades (3)? Would you say your image is one of being polished and having it all together (3) or is your image one of being funny, maybe even outrageous, without much censorship (7)? 


 Type 3: The Performer and Type 8: The Protector
  

Similarities:
Both of these Types are competitive, ambitious and confident and often find themselves in leadership roles. They focus on accomplishing tasks that get them to their goal. They may run over or dismiss others in their attempt to get things done.  

Differences:
The Performer’s (3) main motivation is to get approval from others so they do what it takes to avoid failure at all costs. They are able to adapt, somewhat chameleon-like, to the situation in order to meet goals and succeed. The focus is on image. Threes spend time comparing themselves to others and worrying about what others think about them and they avoid anger except when they feel blocked in attaining a goal.  

Protectors (8) see little value in what others think of them but rather are motivated by the opportunity to get power, influence and control. Their personal goals are about making a large impact with their accomplishments. Protectors see failure as just another opportunity to learn. They express their anger directly and do not avoid confrontation, often viewing it as a way to clear the air.  

If you are wondering if you are an Eight or a Three, contrast these important differences: Throughout your life have you been mostly concerned about your image as a popular person and whether people like you (3) or have you been projecting a large image of strength, boldness and bravado without caring for other’s approval (8)? Is your first defense in a disagreement diplomacy (3) or do you have to hold back your immediate reaction of anger (8)?  


 Type 4: The Romantic & Type 6: The Questioner (Counterphobic Stance)

Similarities:
Both can be contrary, reckless, question authority, magnify fears and go in and out of self-doubt.  

Differences:
Romantics (4) are attracted to emotions and long for what is missing that could be more deeply fulfilling in relationships and experiences. They don’t disobey authority just to push against, but because they feel guided by their internal feelings of what personally works for them.  

Counterphobic Questioners (6) avoid getting trapped in feelings. They look at the worst that might happen in order to avoid, be prepared or challenge what might occur. Being skeptical and lacking trust for all authority, Sixes are easily triggered by anyone who might appear to be attempting to be in charge or call the shots.  

If you are wondering if you are a Four or a Counterphobic Six, contrast these two very important differences: Throughout your life have you focused on avoiding danger (6) or on finding deep emotional connections with others (4)? Have you had a consistent pattern of disagreeing with authorities (supervisors, bosses, politicians as examples) because you don’t trust them (6) or have you felt that the authorities simply don’t "get" you and therefore you don’t give them the respect and power that others might (4)?  


 Type 5: The Observer and Type 9: The Peacemaker
  

Similarities:
Both Types have a self-contained energy that is somewhat retracted. They prefer to be unobtrusive and may even seem invisible at times. They may withdraw if they feel their surroundings are too much. Both enjoy the inner world of their thoughts and may have difficulty articulating their feelings.  

Differences:
Observers (5) detach from others and withdraw as a defense mechanism against people, events, feelings that they find intrusive. The difficulty in articulating feelings comes from the need to be alone to figure them out and make sense of them first. They filter emotions through the mind. They have a great ability to focus on details, research, and complex intellectual concepts. Fives are deliberate and consider carefully the consequences of their actions.  

Peacemakers (9) have a difficult time detaching from others, instead they blend in and go along to get along; all in the name of maintaining comfort and harmony. Nines get pulled off task by inessential activity and other people’s wishes. They have trouble articulating their feelings because at some level they feel invisible and have been focused more on other's desires than on their own. Easygoing Nines are generally over-trusting of others and forget to consider the consequences of their actions.  

If you are wondering if you are a Five or a Nine, contrast these important differences: Throughout your life have you been able to focus and concentrate well on chosen personal goals (5) or have you been pulled off task by others or by inessential activity (9)? Have you been able to hold good boundaries for yourself (5) or do you go along with others in order to keep peace, harmony and comfort (9)? 

 
 Type 6: The Questioner (Counterphobic Stance) and Type 8: The Protector
  

Similarities:
Both Types see the world as untrustworthy and react when they feel that in a challenging, confronting way. Both can be defiant, seem fearless and act intimidating. They tend to fight for the underdog.  

Differences:
Counterphobic Questioners (6) operate from their head, which means that more analysis is going on than with an Eight. There is often more fear or hesitation before taking action, although they would not admit to that. Counterphobic Sixes are often elusive and can be contradictory. They are naturally suspicious and avoid feelings of dependency. Sixes will eventually yield under pressure.

Protectors (8) are quick to act and react and there is far less “mentalizing” going on than with a Six. Eights are rarely in self-doubt. Eights are very clear about what they want and will use their solid will to get it. Opposition to Eights only encourages them to be more steadfast in getting what they want.  

If you are wondering if you are a Six or an Eight, contrast these important differences: Throughout your life has your attention been focused on who is dangerous (6) or who is the most powerful (8)? When there has been conflict are you more likely to back down (6) or push your will until you win or your opponent backs down (8)?

 
 Type 7: The Enthusiast & Type 9: The Peacemaker
 

Similarities:
Both have a strong desire to avoid conflict, and prefer fun and harmonious relationships at home and work. Both are generally happy and busy and can get easily distracted.  

Differences:
Enthusiasts (7) are centered on what works for them and don’t hesitate to hold their boundaries for themselves with others. They are easily attracted to the next fun or exciting activity they want to experience in order to avoid pain or boredom. They seek activities that will give them a high emotional charge.  

Peacemakers (9) in contrast, have a hard time knowing what they want and need and have difficulty holding their own boundaries or saying “no” to others. They are easily distracted by the agendas of other people, primarily to have harmony in their environment and relationships. Nines seek contentment, harmony and want to avoid experiences that are intensely charged.  

If you are wondering if you are a Seven or a Nine, contrast these important differences: Are your distractions caused by exciting, fun and fascinating experiences and people (7) or by other people’s agendas that you are not particularly interested in, but doing because you will gain harmony in your environment (9)? Do you like to feel really excited and even over-stimulated (7) or prefer to live an emotionally comfortable life without too many highs and lows (9)?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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